Thursday, January 19, 2012

The Blame Game~ Day 19 (31 Days of Wisdom)


"Why are you mad at me? I didn't throw any rocks at your dog." ~ my dad.

When I think back on my childhood, I fondly remember:
the adobe brick house that was my home,
the trails through the pasture I blazed on my bike,
the aroma of fresh baked bread greeting me after a long bus ride home,
the turquoise colored curtains in my bedroom,
the hum of my mother's sewing machine late at night,
the thrill of spotting a roadrunner on our kitchen window sill,
and among a zillion other things,
the grin on my father's face each and every time he looked at someone in our family and said,
"Why are you mad at me? I didn't throw any rocks at your dog."

Admittedly, as a child, I had absolutely no idea what this meant. Especially, since he would still say this even during the times of my childhood when we didn't own a dog!

As I grew older and was given more liberty to make my own decisions, I began to understand. 

Bad choices = bad consequences.  And when the bad came back around to bite me, naturally, I would get upset.  I would start announcing how unfair life was and everyone within a 20 acre radius knew I was not a happy camper.

Sometimes, I did the unthinkable and (yes!) tried to blame someone else for my own foolishness.

"Well, it's not my fault.  You should have stopped me.  You should have told me not to do that.  It's all YOUR fault"

But, alas.  I had no one to blame but myself. 

The blame game.

I have a feeling, at one time or another, we have all played it.

Maybe, even with God.

People ruin their lives by their own foolishness
and then are angry at the LORD. ~ Proverbs 19:3, NLT


Have you ever blamed God for the consequences of your foolish choices?

I have.  (Don't jump ahead in hopes of finding some examples.  They won't be there. Simply admitting that is enough transparency for this girl!)

It's not fun reaping the harvest of seeds sown in the soil of foolishness. 

And yet, the harvest is sure to come.

And, when it does, the only one we can blame is................our self.

Not the bathroom scale, not the cigarettes, not the officer who gave us the speeding ticket, not the wall we hit in a rage of anger,

Not God.

Choices come with consequences, and, even though we may not like the result of our actions,  these consequences can become the very thing that motivates, inspires, and compels us to choose differently the next time. 


If someone has a hot temper, let him take the consequences.
If you get him out of trouble once, you will have to do it again. ~ Proverbs 19:19

My father was a wise man. He knew in my mistake, there was lesson to be learned and in my failure, there was wisdom to be gained.

But only, only when I accepted the blame for my own actions.

Being mad at my father wasn't going to free me from the consequences.  Being mad at God, won't either. 

Today, put down the rocks of accusations.  Take a good, long, hard look at yourself.

Are you reaping the harvest of seeds sown in the soil of foolishness?
Then, own up to it. Admit your mistake.  Then, ask God to help you use this experience for future advantage. Learn to seek God in all you do, and BEFORE making any other decisions. 

Just like my earthly father, our Heavenly Father is a father of forgiveness, love, mercy and grace. 

We still have to pay the price,
 but if we learn from it,
our God can and will use it for our good, and His glory~





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2 comments:

  1. oh, man, how i love proverbs! it tells it straight like it is, doesn't it? great writing this day.
    thanks for sharing.
    steph

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  2. True story. (But I'm not leaving any examples here either.)

    :)

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